January 6, 2011
By Adam Bink
Ah, I see NOM, in a desperate move to divide advocates and “protect the kids”, quotes me out of context in their latest e-mail.
Dear Marriage Supporter,
Two weeks ago, NOM — and thousands of good people like you-called on national gay marriage groups to stop using shocking images of children spewing angry obscenities to raise money for their cause.
Thousands of people just like you have signed our petition to protect the kids.
NOM’s “Pink T-shirt video” is opening a lot of eyes to the hatred-inciting tactics of some prominent gay marriage organizations who’ve reportedly accepted more than $200,000 raised by this disturbing video.
Watch the video, with this warning: even with the profanities muted, it is still deeply disturbing. Make sure no children can see it, please, when you play it.
And pray for the children on this video mouthing the hate- and obscenity-filled scripts adults gave them to say-hatred against their friends, neighbors and fellow citizens who believe that marriage is the union of husband and wife.
NOM’s demand is simple: Stop using small children shouting obscenities to make your case and raise money for your cause.
Is that too much to ask!?
The gay press is getting nervous: One gay paper wrote: “The group’s first video Prop 8 is H8: Straight Talk on Gay Marriage has been viewed more than 2 million times. But its frequent – some would say excessive – use of the word **** has divided gay rights advocates.” Adam Bink of the Courage Campaign’s Prop 8 Trial Tracker [one of the groups profiting from the effort] says he “wasn’t thrilled about (a) the strategy of using kids (b) how the video would present to the movable middle.”
But so far, not a single so-called “mainstream” gay rights group has refused to accept the money.
That’s why I need your help today: Don’t back down now. Now is the time to keep the pressure on, to spotlight hatred and incivility and to insist on minimum standards of decency.
This kind of video has no place in a civilized society. Fight back by signing the petition.
And please, pass this on to a friend.
We have a short time to make sure that this kind of hatred does not go answered. We need your help to win a victory for decency, civility and kindness in America today!
Brian S. Brown
Oh, boy. Let’s unpack this.
1. NOM’s claim that Courage Campaign profited from the video is actually false. Courage hasn’t gotten one penny from the folks at FCKH8. I will now wait for Brian to use this quote out of context in some other e-mail. I can see it now: “Gay rights advocates rushed to distance themselves from the video… Adam Bink wrote that ‘Courage hasn’t gotten one penny from the folks at FCKH8’!” Come on, Brian. You know you want to.
2. The quote is a bit out of context. Here’s what I actually wrote (in a piece about how sad and typical it is that NOM is fundraising off kids themselves):
Like Jeremy Hooper, I liked the video but wasn’t thrilled about (a) the strategy of using kids (b) how the video would present to the movable middle. I think some tactics are meant for rallying the base and exciting marriage supporters- which this clearly was and did- while others are not. There wasn’t much in the video about responsibility, commitment, equality, or other messages shown to be effective to persuading open-minded non-equality supporters. You can’t argue with raising $200K, but I might have tweaked how it was done a bit to appeal universally.
On the other hand, like Jeremy, I think NOM using kids to attack the use of kids is, well typical. And for all the concerns about the FCKH8 video, raising cash off this is far worse. As you know from my writing around the NOM bus tours, I’m never one to stay away from confrontational tactics, so if NOM is going to take this and use it in the way we all knew they would, it only further drives me to kick their butt in 2011.
NOM conveniently ignored the part where I said I liked the video, and you can’t argue with raising $200,000, and that I don’t stay away from confrontational tactics like the video, in a kind of desperate effort to drive a wedge among “gay rights advocates”. Sorry, Brian, you’ll have to do better than that. Just because one has suggestions for improvement doesn’t mean they are “getting nervous” or opposes an effort.
3. You know what they say, if the haters quote you, you must be doing something right.
So here’s to a badge of honor for all of us here at Prop8TrialTracker.com. And if you feel like pissing Brian off and making his efforts backfire, I bet your $5, $20 or $50 contribution to Prop8TrialTracker.com would ensure much gnashing of teeth over in NOMville. We’re the #1 Google search result for “Prop 8 trial” and I’m sure keeping it that way with a tax-deductible contribution would really make Brian’s day.